This is the second installment in a series designed to educate today's queer youth on healthy gay sex. The age-old binary relationship between the top and the bottom is as simple as it is complex. In any sexual encounter, gay, straight or otherwise, one person typically assumes the dominant role while the other takes on a submissive role.
For whatever reason, heterosexual men and women seem to believe that gay men like myself hold secrets to everything wonderful and fabulous in life, including when it comes to knowing the best sex positions and how to have truly great sex. OK, perhaps some of you don't — specifically, those of you who think being gay is "just so wrong. This article is not required reading for you.
I waded through countless forum discussions, poorly written books, podcast interviews, old texts on tantric spirituality, and whatever else I could get my hands on. How to bring the techniques from lasting longer in bed and having non-ejaculatory orgasms on your own into the bedroom, to drastically improve the fun, pleasure, and potential of any sex activity with a partner. The most important part of this is showing her how to keep you in a PNEO state, what to do when you get too close, and the physical signs of you being in a PNEO.
The reality is that anal sex can be messy. Bottoms: Wash yourself out with an enema or simply using soap and water before sex to make things as clean as possible. Tops: if it gets a little messy down there, be cool about it!
There are many different types of gay men in the world. What type are you? Take the quiz to find out where you fit in amongst the tops, bottoms and versatile, and which personality style is yours to boot!
The basic mechanics of gay male sex remain a mystery to many. It's not surprising, considering the lack of gay representation in entertainment and the disturbing void of sex education in schools. Ever hear of a "no promo homo" law?
In human sexualitytopbottomand versatile are sex positions during sexual activityespecially between two men. A top is usually a person who penetratesa bottom is usually one who receives penetration, and a versatile engages in both activities or is open to engaging in either activity. These terms may be elements of self-identity that indicate an individual's usual preference, but might also describe broader sexual identities.
He explained that sides enjoy practically every sexual practice aside from anal penetration and choose to be sexually peripheral, so to speak, rather than on the top or the bottom. Well, kinda. Gay people are part of that mix.
You may have been asked at one time or another whether you were a top, bottom, or versatile. Some gay men use these labels to identify themselves or to find partners that match their preferences. Others prefer a more loose interpretation of their sexual roles. It is not unusual for gay men to define themselves this way.